We all know someone who has dated someone who was entirely out of their league. We see it often in the celebrity community, where someone we look up to dates someone who does not seem worthy of their love and affection. One type of guy tends to steal hearts across the board, and Tommy Lee is the embodiment.
Women love bad boys, and they love them, even more, when they are in the world of rock ‘n’ roll. Tommy Lee, the drummer for the legendary metal band Motley Crüe, is the ultimate bad boy. He has a competitive roster of ex-lovers, but he also has a list of women who would never touch him with a ten-foot pole!
He Was Engaged to Sofia Toufa
The legendary rocker has a laundry list of women he has not only dated but popped the question to. Tommy Lee has been married several times and has been engaged even more. His relationship with Sofia Toufa, a Greek-German singer who goes by the stage name of SOFI, was quite the ride to witness.
After dating for four years, the duo became engaged in February 2014. Toufa’s stage name SOFI stands for Some Other Female Interest, which definitely shows her ability to take control of the stage in any kind of role. She is a triple threat and has proven her talent across the board.
Sofia’s Life Outside of Tommy
Unfortunately, even an engagement does not guarantee that the relationship will work out! After a two-year engagement, Tommy Lee and Sofia Toufa split up. While the details are not entirely confirmed, the pair clearly had their reasons for parting ways. Not every relationship is made to last, and Lee’s track record with relationships proves this.
Despite the breakup, it seems that Toufa is living her best life. She started her musical career at a young age and later worked as a backup dancer for Destiny’s Child and Usher. Later, she choreographed for Avril Lavigne and sang backup vocals for Britney Spears in the “Circus” world tour. She has also had roles in movies as well and a long career regardless of the breakup!
Daisy de la Hoya, One of the Many
Daisy de la Hoya worked her way into our hearts when she first appeared on Rock of Love, a reality show on VH1. The gist of the show is to have young, attractive “sex kittens” compete for a shot at love with Bret Michaels, the lead singer of Poison. The show ran for three seasons.
Daisy de la Hoya competed along with twenty other young women for Michaels’ heart. Her charisma was unmatched, so much that VH1 wanted to give her a show of her own. With two star tattoos on her chest and throat, this blonde starlet transformed from an aspiring musician to a reality star seamlessly on Daisy of Love.
Match Made in Heaven
Tommy Lee has a pretty long list of women who have fallen under his spell, but this relationship seemed to be a pretty good match. Bad boys and bad girls go together like peanut butter and jelly, but that does not always mean that the relationship will be healthy. You could probably see that coming.
The two started out pretty hot and heavy, with Daisy flashing her goodies on Motley Crüe’s “Tit E Cam” at their shows. The starlet claimed that they were just friends, but evidence showed the two together. Some believed he was retaliating after finding out his ex-wife Pamela Anderson was dating an Arab prince at the time.
Lee Dated Kimberly Stewart
Kimberly Stewart is the daughter of musician Rod Stewart. She is a model and reality star, which seems to be Tommy Lee’s type. She is the second of eight kids and was born to musical royalty. She attended a prestigious school in Los Angeles and moved on to modeling as soon as she could.
In addition to shooting spreads for Vogue, Vanity Fair, and MaxMara, to name a few, she studied theatre in London with coaches from the Royal Shakespeare Company and the Royal National Theatre. She went on to play roles in some minor films but now works as an interior designer. She recently redid her father’s closets in his Palm Beach, Florida home!
She’s More Than Just Rod Stewart’s Daughter
Lee and Stewart dated for around eight months back in 2007. Something about these beautiful girls with so much potential somehow leads them into relationships with the nutty rock star. Their relationship was short-lived, and for a while, she was another girl who denied dating Lee. Maybe she was embarrassed?
The two dated when she was only 27 and he was 44. Seriously, something about these older rock stars who date much younger women just gives us the heebie-jeebies! We should not be surprised that their relationship did not last; she is a Leo, and he is a Libra… It would never work!
Adult Film Star Girlfriends
In yet another case of women who refused to admit that they were dating Lee, Stefani Morgan joined the ranks. Morgan graduated early from high school – something that seems a little different for people working in her industry – and began modeling just a year later. Working in mainstream modeling did not last super long, as she had her sights set somewhere else…
When Morgan was 19, she broke into the world of hardcore pornography. She embraced her role in the world of explicit adult films and even landed a contract to keep making more. She went on to win awards, namely AVN Awards, for her work in scenes that… excite their audience a little more than others!
Stefani Morgan Moves On
Lee and Morgan met not long after she won her awards. The rock sensation has a taste for fresh meat; when the two started dating back in 2006, they were 23 years apart! Lee tends to date women who are 20 years younger than him… sometimes, even more!
The couple met at the Adult Video News Awards party at the posh Venetian Resort Hotel and Casino in Las Vegas, Nevada. The two got extra friendly at the after-party. He probably wanted to congratulate her for all her hard work. Wow, how kind of you, Tommy!
The Gorgeous Erin Naas
Listen – everyone has different tastes. Some ladies who gave Lee the time of day would absolutely surprise you because somehow his dirty appearance has managed to pull some perfect 10s. One of these bombshells is the beautiful actress, Erin Naas. The two dated back in 2006, a year when Lee seemed to get around!
Naas is an actress who has made her way around the modeling circuit. She made notable appearances in Maxim and Sports Illustrated and worked as a model for Victoria’s Secret. She was also a model on the game show Deal or No Deal with Howie Mandel.
Erin Naas Keeps Busy
Erin Naas does not have a ton of acting credits beyond her role in Transformers: Revenge of the Fallen. She played Acree Rider, who was one of three female holographic riders in the film. Back in 2006, Lee and Naas were romantically linked. It seems that Naas has a penchant for men who are rough around the edges.
Apparently, back in 2008, Naas and Kimberly Stewart, another ex-girlfriend of Lee’s, got into a bit of a catfight at Hyde Nightclub in Los Angeles. Lee had to break up the fight, though we know he probably did not mind it at all. Her other ex-boyfriends include Kid Rock, Chris Paciello, and Jay Grdina. She definitely has a type!
Tara Reid and Tommy Lee Had Tons of Fun
Tara Reid is an actress who has done some remarkable work. She has a roster of notable films and some less than great television roles, but many people know her for her role in the iconic American Pie series. We loved her as Vicky in those films! She has gone on to do some other great work.
Reid has been acting since she was a child. She began acting at the age of six, and naturally, that will lead to some ups and downs in her career. She was nominated for multiple Razzies, the award given to the worst films and those who starred in them. Not everything can be a winner!
Lee and the American Pie Star
Reid is another one who was engaged and married a bunch of times. She dated Carson Daly, and the two were engaged before breaking it off a year later. She has also dated a series of foreign financiers and businessmen from Denmark, Germany, and Bulgaria, as well as other musicians such as Israeli musician Erez Eisen from Infected Mushroom.
Her relationship with Lee seems to have been pretty short-lived. The two met and started hanging out in Las Vegas, but you can probably imagine what happened there. They began dating upon their return to Los Angeles and were keeping things casual. Lee told a friend at the time, “we’re just playing and having fun. She’s rad!” That sounds pretty casual to us!
Tommy’s Got a Type
Tommy Lee has a type, if it was not evident before! This rocker likes top-heavy women. He loves women who can fill out a bra and ladies with shiny, blonde hair. No surprise that he found himself romantically entangled with Swedish supermodel Victoria Silvstedt.
Other reporters have connected her looks to Lee’s ex-wife, Pamela Anderson. The two spent time together at the Parisian nightclub, the VIP Room, where they were seen canoodling when Lee was supposed to be performing as a DJ. That night, he even posed for the cameras and pretended to grope her!
Victoria’s Doing the Most!
The blonde-haired, blue-eyed Swedish model has used her looks to climb the social ladder of society. She came in second place in the Miss Sweden pageant in 1993, and just three years later, she was making regular appearances in Playboy. In 1996, she was Playmate of the Month, and the following year she was Playmate of the Year!
She represented Sweden in the Miss World pageant in 1993 and is the last from the nation to be in the top 10. She has since designed her lingerie line and played some minor roles in movies, but she seems to be lying low these days.
Is there some magic potion that leads these women to fall head over heels for the grimy-looking rocker? He seems to be shooting from the half-court line… and making it! Tommy Lee seems to be able to snag ladies that are way out of his league. Supermodel Naomi Campbell is one of them.
Back in 2004, the two were embracing each other at a hotel in Miami Beach, Florida. He was there for a music conference, and she reportedly was there just to be a supermodel on the beach, being beautiful and doing supermodel things. The two were seen “all over each other” before sharing a meal later that week.
Naomi Campbell Stands Up
Naomi Campbell is a name that speaks for itself. She is a world-renowned, British supermodel who was discovered at just 15 years old. She has appeared on countless magazine covers and in music videos for legendary musicians like Michael Jackson. She was one of the first models to be given the title “supermodel.”
Campbell is the most famous Black model of her time, and she has been incredibly outspoken about the bias against models of color. “I am seen as one of the top models in the world, but I do not make the same money as them,” she said when discussing the differences in the volume of work her white counterparts received. In 1997, she publicly stated, “There is prejudice. It is a problem, and I can’t go along any more with brushing it under the carpet. This business is about selling, and blonde and blue-eyed girls are what sells.”
P!nk and Tommy Lee Get Their Own Party Started
Back in 2003, P!nk and Tommy Lee were reportedly engaging in private adult activities together. Before it was ever confirmed, Lee’s ex-wife Pamela Anderson appeared on The Howard Stern Show and shared her thoughts. When Stern asked if the two were “having sex,” Anderson immediately responded with a confident, “oh yeah! Definitely!”
In her interview with Heat Magazine in 2004, P!nk opened up about her time with the legendary drummer. The two were hot and heavy, and he even made an appearance in her music video for “God is a DJ,” which did not help shut down the rumors. In the interview, she noted that their time together was serious but confirmed her attraction. “Lee is one of the f**king hottest musicians left. He has managed to stay above the tides: He is an awesome f**king drummer… And he is hot.”
Is P!nk More Famous Than Tommy?
P!nk is a musical sensation in her own right. The star’s real name is Alecia Beth Moore, and she got her stage name from the movie Reservoir Dogs after her friends said she resembled the character, Mr. Pink. She struggled through her teen years with drugs but fortunately had music to turn to. Before she was a solo star, she was part of the group Basic Instinct, followed by another group she appeared in, Choice. Her record company saw her potential and offered her a solo contract.
Fast forward to today, P!nk is one of the biggest pop stars around. She paved the way for artists like Katy Perry and Lady Gaga to embrace who they are. She has many songs that anyone would recognize today, and she has also taken home a bunch of awards. She has been nominated for a ton and has taken home three Grammys. She’s nowhere near done with the music industry!
Tommy Lee Dated Prince’s Ex-Wife
Mayte Garcia is another woman who has worked her way through the world of rock star boyfriends. Garcia was formerly married to Prince; the late sensation had a way with the ladies and had several ladies on his hips. After the two split up, Garcia spent some time dating Tommy Lee.
The two dated almost immediately after her split from Prince. They even got engaged and planned to marry, though they ultimately ended up calling off the engagement. Not every relationship works out, and it is clear that these two dodged the toxic relationship bullet by not getting hitched. That’s not to say that the relationship was all healthy, but fortunately, they were not legally bound!
About Mayte Garcia
Most people know Mayte as Prince’s ex-wife, but she is so much more than that. When she was just 16, she sent a video of herself belly dancing to Prince in the hopes of getting a place as one of his dancers. Just weeks after sending the tape, he was performing a show in Germany, near where she was living with her family at the time.
She had a lengthy career as a dancer, both for Prince on tour and for other artists. Notably, she choreographed the belly dancing routines for Britney Spears’ music video, “I’m a Slave 4 U.” She also choreographed Britney’s performance of the song at the 2001 MTV Music Awards. She began dating Lee at the time and sang on his album Never a Dull Moment in 2002, then toured with him as a dancer.
The Electra Days
Tommy Lee has a taste for ladies who used to be on Baywatch! His ex-wife Pamela Anderson was co-stars with Carmen Electra back in their days on the show together. He and Electra dated briefly in 1999 but rekindled their romance again at Coachella Music Festival in Indio, California, back in 2017.
Though their original relationship was short-lived (they only dated for about a month), they rekindled their romance and sense of lust while getting cozy in the VIP section of the festival. The two watched musical sets together and were photographed together multiple times during the three-day music and art festival.
We know her as Carmen Electra, but that’s just her stage name! She was born Tara Leigh Patrick in April 1972 and took the world by storm as an actress, model, and singer. She is known for her role in Baywatch, a show about hot lifeguards. In 1993, the star moved to Minneapolis, where she met Prince, who produced her self-titled debut studio album!
Today, she does not seem to be taking many roles (or maybe they are not being offered to her…), but she is incredibly active on social media. She posts numerous throwbacks on her Instagram account, almost daily! She went on to date Dennis Rodman, and they even got married. They had a turbulent relationship, which often resulted in physical altercations and being arrested, but they seem to be doing okay now, even if they are not currently married.
Too Much Affection for Jenna Jameson
Adult film star Jenna Jameson is another of Tommy Lee’s exes, but she had a unique complaint. She was not a fan of all the affection she received from the rock star. They dated before he married Pamela Anderson. In a 2003 interview with Paper Magazine, Jameson opened up about her relationship with Lee (as well as others from his industry).
Jameson spoke candidly about her ex. “He wants to conquer every hot chick. All of the rock stars I’ve dated are all about having the trophy. But when people start focusing on you or asking for your autograph more often than theirs, they freak out.” This adult film star knows what she wants out of a relationship.
Jenna’s a Busy Girl!
Jameson loved the spotlight, at least in her industry. Though she has since retired from the adult film industry, she smashed her competition after winning more than 35 adult video awards for her performances. She started working as a stripper and a glamour model and made her way into the adult film industry.
She certainly made her mark; Jameson was inducted into the X-Rated Critics Organization and Adult Video News halls of fame. She started producing explicit videos on her website, Club Jenna, and her career skyrocketed from there. She has since been deemed the “Queen of Porn,” which is a pretty big title!
Tommy Lee’s Marriages
It seems that this guy is addicted to getting engaged, even more than getting married. The rock star has gotten engaged numerous times to other celebrities, though the engagements often did not follow through. He has been quick to propose but is not so great with the follow-through.
Some of his previous engagements included Sofia Toufa, Mayte Garcia, and model Bobbie Brown. Those three never came to fruition, though that is probably for the best. He does not seem to be too torn up about it, though… he’s currently on his fourth wife!
His First Wife, Elaine Starchuk
Tommy Lee married Elaine Starchuk in 1984, and they were only married for a quick minute. She definitely fits the mold of his usual type of gal. She was a Playboy model and lived in Hugh Hefner’s penthouse but ended up moving on to bigger, better things.
The Vancouver native divorced the rock star after only a month and gave up her post in the Playboy mansion to return to her roots. Her fame began to fade, and she decided to use her skills for the betterment of society. She became a teacher and has since been keeping a low profile in the public eye.
The Heather Locklear Days
Tommy Lee and Heather Locklear were married when they were young; she was 24, and he was 23. He was at the height of his days with Mötley Crüe, and she was leading the ranks in Hollywood. They had a large wedding, with around 500 guests, and hosted them at the beautiful Santa Barbara Biltmore Hotel.
The couple struck many as a mismatch. On paper, they seemed like two people who would never go near each other. However, sometimes opposites attract, and you have to follow your heart! The two started hot and heavy, and for Lee, it was love at first sight.
How Tommy and Heather Met
While many might see him as obnoxious and loud, he was pretty shy when it came to introducing himself to Locklear. The two met backstage at an REO Speedwagon concert, and Lee was instantly captivated. He knew he had to have her and had a mutual acquaintance introduce him to her.
When People magazine wrote a feature on the wedding, Lee got candid. “I was so shy I couldn’t possibly have gone up to her myself, but it was Heather or bust.” He was so excited about his life with Locklear that he proposed just three months into their relationship.
The Honeymoon Stage
The couple had a lovely three-week honeymoon on the beaches of Grand Cayman. In the same interview with People, Lee opened up about his excitement to grow old with his new wife. “I think we’ll be the coolest grandma and grandpa in the world. We’ll be like 85 or 90; I’ll still be a rock pig, and Heather will still be gorgeous.”
Their wedding was nothing short of a performance. The groom wore a white leather tux and was rumored to be chewing gum until Locklear headed to meet him down the aisle. She wore a fitted, mermaid-style gown, and they shared a long, nondenominational ceremony. When they kissed for the first time as a married couple, a dozen white doves were released.
A beautiful wedding, unfortunately, does not lead to a perfect marriage. Their marriage did not last long, though it did last longer than many of Lee’s other relationships. They were married for eight years before they divorced in 1994. Though we’ve been told that there was no bad blood, we know it was not an easy ending.
There were rumors of cheating on Lee’s part, and Locklear apparently had a very tough time in their breakup. Thirty years after their divorce was finalized, the movie The Dirt came out, which depicted scenes from Mötley Crüe’s journey to stardom alongside scenes depicting their relationship.
The Pamela Anderson Files
A famously toxic Hollywood relationship is that of Tommy Lee and Pamela Anderson. The relationship had a series of ups and downs, many of which landed Lee in jail on abuse charges. The two first met in 1994 at a New Year’s Eve party, where he was heavily intoxicated on numerous substances.
After Anderson sent a bottle of alcohol to Lee’s table, he thanked her by grabbing her face and licking it from top to bottom. He was instantly hooked and stared at her the whole night. Her friends told her that she should stay away from him, but she finally gave in after quite some time and effort.
Tommy’s Weird Way of Courting
Their relationship was tumultuous, to say the least. When she finally told him to come meet her at her hotel room, he did not freshen up for her in the least. Though he wanted to impress her, he wrote that he “put on [his] dirtiest f**king leather pants, slipped into an old T-shirt that stank of B.O. and didn’t shave or shower. [He] did, however, brush [his] teeth.”
If the sound of that does not excite you, you are not alone. That sounds kind of gross, to be honest! He wanted to surprise her and give her a treat, so he “drove to the Pleasure Chest and picked up $400 worth of sex toys and outfits.” Well, he’s got an exciting way of courting the women he likes!
Pamela Was Not Pleased
He arrived at her hotel to find out that she was not there; she had not stood him up, but she did forget about the date. She had already headed down to Cancun to work on a project, so he ended up hopping a flight to Mexico to meet her at her hotel. She was not a fan of this big gesture; it annoyed her.
After refusing to see him, she did end up meeting him for a drink. Later that night, they ended up in bed together. After just four days of dating, the two were married in the Mexico resort where they started their relationship. Her family did not even know about the wedding – they had to learn about it from the tabloids!
The Infamous Tape
It did not take long for the two to get down to business and film their sex tape together. The two got intimate on camera on their honeymoon after Anderson said they were naked constantly. They locked the tape in their safe, which was reportedly stolen. They filed a $10 million lawsuit to make sure no one could make money off it, but two years later, it was leaked online.
Quickly, the two made some babies; first, they had Brandon in 1996, followed by Dylan in 1997. Unfortunately, pregnancy was not a cakewalk for her. She was at the hands of an abuser, who did not let her pregnancy stop him from being violent with her. The story of his abuse toward his pregnant wife is painful, but he paid for it.
Far Too Rough
No matter how many tattoos he got in her honor, he proved to be a terrible husband to her. He beat Anderson while she was pregnant with Dylan. In 1998, Lee was charged with felony spousal abuse, which was very much deserved. Seriously, what kind of monster does that to anyone, let alone his wife who was carrying his unborn child?
She filed for divorce, and outside of the Malibu Municipal Courthouse, she told reporters, “I’m very proud of Tommy. I’m happy he took responsibility for this. And I think it’s the first step towards healing.” She took the high road while he sat in jail for six months. She also changed her ring-finger tattoo ever so slightly, from “Tommy” to “Mommy.”
The Roast of Pamela Anderson
Though they had a rough go of things, they did give things another shot and remarried. They called it off again, but luckily there did not seem to be as much bad blood as you would expect. Their son Brandon got into an altercation with his father, but fortunately, they worked things out. In the first stretch of Comedy Central’s epic roasts of celebrities, Pamela was the guest of honor.
Lee presented his best jokes about her and their sex life, mainly alluding to their wild times in the bedroom. Even though both of them have been in relationships, he constantly referred to her as “baby” and commented on her body. By the end, he expressed his love for her through and through, and, naturally, commented on their sex tape.
Wife Number Four
Lee was no stranger to getting what he wanted with hot, young women. Tommy Lee met his current wife, Brittany Furlan, in a very modern way. The internet star got her start on Vine, and Lee slid into her direct messages to catch her eye. The two began dating and were married in 2017.
When Vine went downhill and ceased to exist, the star transitioned into a YouTube channel where she became a top internet influencer. Though this is Lee’s fourth marriage, he still seems to be following the pattern of going after much younger women. She is 24 years younger than he is, so he has a type.
Brittany Furlan Kept Busy Before Tommy
Before she started seeing her current husband, she was engaged to someone else. This is interesting because he was also engaged to another star himself. Until late 2016, Furlan was engaged to a fellow Vine star, Randal Kirk II. The two called it quits; she dated around for a moment and then met Lee.
Furlan is still with Lee and is doing what she can to work. She made an appearance as a “biker chick” in the Mötley Crüe biopic The Dirt. She also had roles in the movies We Are Your Friends and The Unicorn. She was even a centerpiece in Pitbull’s music video for his song “Fireball.”
What Does the Future Hold?
Through all his relationship woes, Lee seems to be living his best life with his current wife, Brittany Furlan. He shared a bikini photo of his wife and bragged about her “100% natural body.” He is either bragging or just delighted to have her. Either way, that’s some serious flattery.
Who knows how long this marriage will last? All we know is that this rocker has been in so many different relationships over the years that he’s probably got his relationship issues worked out. We hope he has learned from his mistakes and treats his current (and any future) lover like the queen she is!